Well, here we are four posts in and I have not yet put up an introduction to the blog. Those who know me, probably know that this is pretty typical. But, enough about that, let’s get to the intro. What do I intend with my blog? I am firstly trying to take the jumble of thoughts that transition has created and try to impose some kind of order. The many new experiences I am creating for myself as I try to navigate my gender need a place to be put and ruminated over and fitted into my new self. It is through this cataloging and thinking over of new experiences and thoughts that I can find some control over where my transition is going. Second, I want to help other trans folk, especially those who are young and new to realizing they are or might be transgender. I spent a very long time resisting the idea that I was transgender, and avoiding thinking about what I had to do to finally be happy and live. I took so long to come to terms with my gender and transitio
I started chatting with a person on a dating site. And they really aligned with a lot of what I am looking for... if I can be said to be looking for anything. Generally, I don't look, for many reasons that could be a post of their own. What I do is make connections wherever I can, and if something blossoms that is great! But this woman, she started pretty good. Sure there were some small misconnects, but we acknowledged them and discussed them. I was willing to continue talking and see if there could be a connection. As the discussion proceeded over the weeks, I noticed that I was getting very into her. All her professed wants and beliefs in a relationship were matching mine. Her hobbies and likes also matched. But then came the yellow flags.. Little things that just didn't add up. Turns of phrase that didn't match their history, and avoidance of any contact but messenger, professions of compatibility with no way to know the truth of them, professions of beauty that