You will often hear people ask, “What are your preferred pronouns?” or variations on that. Well, I don’t have preferred pronouns. Does that mean you can use ‘him’ when speaking of me, or ‘they’? No. I don’t have preferred pronouns because there is no choice in the matter. I am a woman, and therefore, my pronouns are she/her/hers. For other trans people, their pronouns will be theirs as well; not what they prefer, but what they are, whatever those pronouns would be. Now, that is not to say that I don’t like to hear my pronouns used. I get pleasure from people recognizing my gender and referring to me correctly. Some have talked of ‘gender euphoria’; the feeling of joy when one’s gender is recognized by others or reinforced by expressing one’s gender. Gender euphoria is often put up as the antithesis of dysphoria. I get euphoria from others gendering me correctly, and yes it is proper English to say that people prefer to be happy… but to say that my g